Reading a recent post on my friend Sharmon’s blog I responded to her in this way and thought, hmmm, this is important!
“I want to connect with everyone, I am so grateful for every comment...but it is too much to respond to everyone...all of us have other things we must do and limited energy and it is unrealistic to be able to "do it all"...and unwise, and unkind to our hearts and minds to abuse ourselves with guilt for the impossible. We send out our love as much as we can, and hope it touches at least one person...maybe more and we reach out and connect with a few when we can...and trust TRUST...that love and compassion...friendship are more expansive, forgiving (for giving) than the guilt we use to cut ourselves down with...we must stop this, you and me and all of us who are feeling needless guilt and anguish...when the truth is we are doing our very best...we are good and kind and do what we can when we can (to support each other)...and that is a blessing.”
If you are a blogger you may well be feeling overwhelmed and simultaneously guilty by the love and the desire to give back and the impossibility of it all. And if you are not a blogger, but reading this today, perhaps it is a zillion emails or phone calls or who knows what that cause you to feel the very same feelings that Sharmon and I have been feeling. Many of us are just natural "care-takers" and if we could, would do more than we do...but we do so much as it is each to our best ability. (This is coming from someone who is mostly home bound and can barely prepare a meal or do more than fold a little laundry some days...but somehow still finds ways to fill the hours with writing and reading and connecting with as many folks as I can...and meditating, photographing, mentoring a few clients from time to time, resting and being Mom for consultations on the bed, oh and partner to my very best friend.)
And so to everyone who lovingly leaves me messages, know that I am sending YOU warmest wishes: May every day be filled with moments of wonder, joy, peace, lovingkindness and ease, not every minute of every day, but in those blessed ones that restore your soul throughout the difficult times.
If I don’t drop by to say thank you each time you stop here, I'm saying it right now, and I mean it for always. I trust in the expansiveness of kindness; it is as vast as the blue sky above. So no more blog guilt, just love.
And so to everyone who lovingly leaves me messages, know that I am sending YOU warmest wishes: May every day be filled with moments of wonder, joy, peace, lovingkindness and ease, not every minute of every day, but in those blessed ones that restore your soul throughout the difficult times.
If I don’t drop by to say thank you each time you stop here, I'm saying it right now, and I mean it for always. I trust in the expansiveness of kindness; it is as vast as the blue sky above. So no more blog guilt, just love.
"Though our communication wanes at times of absence, I'm aware of a strength that emanates in the background."
-Claudette Renner
-Claudette Renner
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with gratitude to everyone who makes this SkyWatch Friday possible…so that we may gaze upon beautiful skies around the world and connect in this way too; ONE beneath the skies above.
ps. Today I'll be receiving my first of 3 steroid infusions over the next 3 months as the Tysabri leaves my system...so I don't know how I'm gonna feel and just might not be online much today....then again...I might be so hyped up I'm online all night! (kind of hope not...and don't really expect that...you just never know!) Let's just hope my veins behave and I don't end up with enormous bruises again. Those poor sweet home health nurses really try, but my veins are tricky and I always feel so bad for them, because they feel bad for me. In the end I seem to end up consoling the nurses for blowing my veins. Well, I've been pumping up with fluids for two days, so maybe it won't be an issue. The nurses are always so kind. Have a wonderful weekend everyone!
Laura, I'm sending love and positive thoughts that everything goes well today. Please don't ever feel guilty if you can't reply to comments. I think you are remarkable doing all that you do.
ReplyDeleteLaura, I absolutely understand. Just know that your loving presence in the universe brings joy.
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sending prayers for you as you go through this treatment. big hugs, suki
ReplyDeleteI could have written your response as I feel the same way. While it is very nice when I do hear back from someone I surely don't expect it because I know all too well that life happens...as it should...I love all those that I have connected with through blogging and I have a confidence that when they don't comment on one of my posts or respond to a coment I left on theirs it has nothing to do with me...that it has to do with them and their busy factor or maybe they are sick or just plain don't have time....I know for me every day is different...some day's the pain makes it so I can do nothing...some day's I can read but can't always comment on every post I read...that doesn't mean they aren't in my thoughts and prayers...but there are day's I feel guilty and I have to chase it away with reminders that true friends understand and don't have these high expectations.
ReplyDeleteI am sending up prayers for it all to go well today...for you and the nurses...I pray you will be able to rest in peace and in thoughts of healing. Sending love, hugs, smiles and happy thoughts your way my friend. (((Laura)))
sending love to your veins...
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your shots!
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, good luck with you treatment! I hope everything goes well :o)
ReplyDeleteThank you for this post, I have been feeling guilty lately about blogging less...and I don't get nearly as many readers as you do!!! By sharing this, you made me feel okay about stepping back a bit though. I guess getting sluggish once in a while happens to everyone, especially in the winter!!!
Laura, hope your veins are plump and receptive so the infusion goes smoothly and well. Thinking of you...
ReplyDeleteI know just what you mean! I like to maintain the connections i make with other bloggers and there are always new people to get to know! But we can only do so much,.... Hope your treatment goes well
ReplyDeleteLaura, I can relate to your post and appreciate the words that remind me to simply do my best and let that be. Frankly, I'm so impressed that you do so much in spite of your illness. I am having to cut down on blogging now too. My life is a little too full. But, I'll follow your lead and do my best. I can feel the sincerity of your good wishes. Thank you. Your spirit is beyond words, and I'll feel your spirit even if you don't comment.
ReplyDeleteLovely post . . . to Be trust, faith and awareness . . . to release of expectations of Self and others. Much love to you.
ReplyDeleteP.S. The quote by Renner is a gem!
Hi Laura,
ReplyDeletePlease take care of yourself. I hope that the treatment shines you as the sun does in your photo.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Yoshi
Thank YOU for your kindness in thanking us!
ReplyDeleteI think most people realize that time is limited and we can't always say hi to everyone (even though we try)!
I just love what you did...nice shot!
ReplyDeletePlease check out my Skywatch entry as well. Thanks!
Hi Laura, sending you my hugs! Keep warm and happy weekend!
ReplyDeleteSky Watch Friday
Remembering you...
ReplyDeleteGorgeous shot!
ReplyDeleteHope you can come and take a look at my Skywatch post. Have a great weekend.
Amazing reds and great contrast to the beautiful blue sky.
ReplyDeleteHOpe your infusion goes smoothly.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful photos, and as per usual you have such a way with words.
Sending love, Laura! Love love love. I appreciate every comment from you! Take care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteAs usually I admire your words as well as beautiful photo and send you love and positive vibrations:)
ReplyDeleteHugs
Joo
Beautiful pic—like an abstract painting, almost. Intelligently framed in the borders of the pic!
ReplyDeleteSending LOVE!
A very wise post
ReplyDeleteyour image is glorious, as are your words. you write it all very well. I hope you have beautiful healing energy coming your way. take care and have a beautiful weekend!
ReplyDeleteLaura, we all do our best.
ReplyDeleteHope your injections give you energy and not too much!
What you say is so true--and needed. We give what we can, and the love goes round and round in ever-expanding circles.
ReplyDeleteBoy do I relate to the vein thing. Hope all went well for you today... sending you love and thanks for your words of grace to us all.
ReplyDeleteP.S. Gorgeous photo. What ARE those red blooms?
I feel the self same way. Although you've said it so much better. Thank you for this and for every time you take time to stop by my place and leave a lovely note for me.
ReplyDeleteBTW, I have it on good authority that taking Arnica supplements (pill version, not the topical cream) will help prevent bruising, although my friend tells me it works best if you can take it in the three days preceding the treatment. Anyway, if all else fails, the topical cream does help to speed up the healing process, if you do bruise. Best wishes!
Blessings,
Carolynn
Your words are so beautifully expressed...there is no need for guilt - life is too short. I hope your treatment went well today and that you're resting peacefully. Your blog always touches my heart so I'd like to nominate it for the stylish blogger award. There is no need for you to do anything if you're not inclined to. I just wanted you to know how much I enjoy your blog ;)
ReplyDeleteDear Laura, all bloggers recognize that sentiment and I know that you are thankful for every single word ever left on your page.;) You do not need to say it, it comes across in a subtle and covert, yet so very obvious way and can be certainly perceived.
ReplyDeleteStunning images as always.
Have a lovely weekend:)
xoxo
You have a wonderful way of expressing feelings many of us experience, and doing so in such a beautiful way. Sending prayers and love and light to you, as I do every day.
ReplyDeleteI really appreciate hearing that guilt-free, love message, Laura -- so often I feel terrible about not responding to all those who reach out to me on my blog (like you, friend!). I guess we simply do what we can do and put the rest in God's hand.
ReplyDeleteJust read your post above, too -- glad your infusion went well yesterday and that you had a skilled and friendly nurse -- that makes all the difference!
Blessings to you, Laura -- sending love and well-wishes your way...
I, too, was glad to read that things went fairly well yesterday. I've had a week where I haven't been home much, but you have been on my mind. Rest, be well, and know that you are in my thoughts every day ~
ReplyDeleteLaura, my post seems to have struck a nerve with many bloggers. You, of all people, should not feel guilty- about anything. I'm sending you golden healing light, and as always, love. xxoo
ReplyDeleteYou describe the feeling of blogging well. The need to do more! Thanks
ReplyDeletekim
Just stumbled into your blog - thank you for sharing your inspirations, you're journey, and these beautiful images. We love macros here too. Wishing you goodness each day.
ReplyDeleteJust stumbled into your blog. How beautiful! Thank you for sharing your inspirations, your journey, and the rich images. We love macros, too. Wishing you goodness each day.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes for you always, we are very inspired by your contributions here. :-)
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